Marriage from my perspective is in the summary below. I should add that, its just a summary. If you happen to read this, just take what you will or don't take anything at all. I just write stuff sometimes.
As a veteran "marriager"....okay that's probably not a word. But as a woman and mother who came out of a 18 year marriage which I am proud of even though it ended, I think I have some qualification to be saying stuff that I won't even say. It's just not necessary to elaborate, other than to say GOD will deliver you if you ask it of him and believe in him.
You see, before my separation, my husband and I agreed we will not speak about each other publicly for the sake of our children. I respect him.
That's what life is about. Improvement, because some things cannot be undone once it is done. Also, I don't go backwards much in my personal life or relationships as I am not built that way. I am more like, let me take the next step into what makes me feel complete? My answer is GOD and my family. My ex husband and I are trying to raise our kids as normally as possible and that is a good thing. For them I will try.
Now marriage.......darn you smart people who got it right the first time! We love you guys I hope you know that. I love marrrrrrrriaaaage! I love it. I love when I see a couple getting it right. There is something about it to admire so much. I love a solid union. I love an unbreakable union.
Doesn't it kind of make your mouth drop open? like, how? Here is the secret, there is no how. Marriage is beautiful. Any long term union where there is a partnership based off of love, trust and respect, that is something you have achieved and you should proudly wear it like a banner.
Are you together right now? Are you in love? Did you wake up with your partner? are you still married? are you still in a long term union? then you are meant to be exactly where you are and with the one you are with. Own that, your heart and faith will tell you the truth. Bring GOD in it.
My opinion is, don't let sadness and negativity envelope your spirit. Protect your partner. Tell them every once in a while how much you love them even if you have said it for the millionth time, make sure its a habit. That it is ingrained in each other.
Fellows...did you hold your partner's hand lately? Not have to make them wonder why you haven't? Hand holds are so special.
Did you kiss your partner and tell him or her you loved them lately?
How about complementing her on that gorgeous rare she has and remind her of the hot reasons you married her? Once a week? Everyday>? no that's too much. I won't pressure you so much.
Did you tell her she was a good mother or woman?
Did you thank her?
Men try to realize how important it is to have a good woman.
All of the above for you too.
Add this one......Did you listen to him? I mean really listen? With your heart and your ears. Did you hear what he said for real?
A marriage can survive anything. Anything at all. Even abuse if you are willing to repent and let GOD. That's what I think. Physical, emotional, verbal its all the same abuse, you can over come it for sure. Keep the sanctity alive with trust in GOD, your partner, and yourself.
I am GOD fearing first and foremost.
Be with your partner as Naked as Adam and Eve. That is the foundation of a solid marriage and GOD must be in it.
So keep your marriage healthy by listening to each other as it really takes two. GOD is love and he wants you to find love and fulfillment in your partner. He can show you how if you let him. I will always believe that.
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My name is Tracy and welcome to my site and blog page. Thanks for stopping by. On this page I will try to catalogue some things or pivotal moments I feel have made me who I am. There may even be moments that are not so pivotal but more like a muse, a funny memory or otherwise. Be warned though, I may take things off, I may re-edit or remove things. If you happen to read something and it isn't here anymore, its because I am either re-editing, or getting ready to add something else. Also, some of the things I say on here may be understandable and some may not, and sometimes I may not blog or add anything for a while. It's okay with me if you don't understand me or what I write, I mean no ill will in my words or what I write so don't take it personal if it offends you that's just not my aim. My blog or this page is created for me, and for my fans or anyone who wants to come on here and read what I write.